Self Love. Another one of those buzz words we hear floating around, but one of the things I want to do is not simply use the words as a fad- but actively take steps to improve the way I feel about myself. When things don’t go our way, relationships fail or we don’t get that promotion- we tend to automatically look inward at the reasons we may not be good enough. I want to flip the script. On this week’s blog post, I want to share the steps I will be taking to improve and increase my self love 💕. Read on and see if you can do the same.
You alone is enough, you have nothing to prove to anybody.Maya Angelou
Don’t misinterpret this post as a sign that I have this figured out- in fact what you SHOULD take from this post is the fact that I am very much figuring it all out just like the rest of us and the purpose of this post is to hold myself accountable and in check. While I accept this is no quick fix and definitely no “5 steps” to…in order to love yourself more, there are definitely ways to rethink and rework the thought processes we get into the habit of perpetuating. I for one know that I can sometimes look in the mirror and feel 😑, which I know happens to all of us. But what I would like to do is give myself far more grace. Sit back and thank my body for all that it has been through and all that it has sustained. After all, it is the very least I can do.
1- Positive Self-Talk: Take this from an over thinker, the way and the words you say to yourself matters. If not, they will churn, they will fester and they will settle into your skin. Last year, working on my gratitude jar, I was able to see the benefits and importance of shifting your mindset. There were many moments when I felt low, alone and so unsure of myself, but reassessing how I spoke to myself and trying to give myself grace and space to simply sit in those feelings took a lot of the pressure off. It allowed me to not be hard on myself but also so simply be, no matter how I’m feeling. Be kind, especially to yourself.
2- Practice Self-Care: As much as this is a buzz word for 2020, I still think it’s super important. Taking the time to unwind, disconnect and essentially reconnect to yourself is extremely important. I am lucky that writing is one of the ways I practice self-care. It allows me to get things off my chest, sort through my thoughts in many ways to relax. The older I get the more I fully understand why people want to live somewhere remote/off the grid. One of my main goals for 2022 is to seek peace, I don’t want complication, I don’t want drama- and I will reject it feverishly. Keeping my mind healthy, and stress free is definitely the best way I can practice self-care.
Make yourself a priority.
3- Listen to how you feel: This kind of touches on the two previous posts, but being in tune with how your body feels, any of the changes you experience, but also accepting it for what it is, can do wonders. We all know life has its ups and downs, but yet we tend to tense up and fight it as if we can make it any different. Letting things go and accepting that it couldn’t have been any other way, will allow you to not carry the weight of how you thought things would be. Listen to your emotions, write it down, honour it- but then…release it.
4- Take Care of Your Body: As much as people tend to think of exercise as a way to change your body, for me- I workout for my mental health. I feel a lot more relaxed and at ease after I work out. I enjoy seeing how much I can push my mind to do one more rep of a certain move, especially when I feel like I can’t anymore. But another way to look at it is, working out is also a way to celebrate your body. Seeing all of the things your body CAN do. All of that has to be seen as a positive. If you have health and can take the time to do something for your body, be it good food or good exercise- I 100% say good for it!! One of my goals this year is to take 15-20 mins a day, to move my body in some way. Nothing too hard, but to work up a sweat and to push myself. My target is 3 days a week, but I have taken the pressure off of myself. If I miss one day- I have other days. It’s as simple as that. 💪🏾