I don’t know if it’s just me, but lately the world has been feeling heavy; from the ongoing war in Ukraine, to school shootings, to the recent passing of Bill 96 to people all around seeming to be at their whit’s end. No one seems to have any patience anymore, let alone any form of compassion. Everyone is starting out at and 85% and it’s all just conflict and anger and if I’m being honest, I have never felt the need to live far far away more than I have now. That being said, there are plenty of reasons to be happy and plenty to choose joy and peace, so this week on the blog I am sharing the different ways I am choosing to stay away from the drams. Have a read and let us know what you do to keep chill.
𝕎𝕙𝕖𝕟 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕝𝕚𝕧𝕖 𝕚𝕟 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕡𝕣𝕖𝕤𝕖𝕟𝕥, 𝕥𝕙𝕖𝕣𝕖 𝕚𝕤 𝕟𝕠 𝕤𝕥𝕣𝕖𝕤𝕤, 𝕛𝕦𝕤𝕥 𝕡𝕖𝕒𝕔𝕖.
One thing I know I will be firm with, it is to stay away from any form of drama. It’s like the older I get, the more I seek out simplicity; the things which will only bring joy and most certainly, the things which will not bring more added stress. As a single parent, I have so many things to think about and so many things I am the only one in charge of. Sometimes, my brain is just far too full. I am also very much aware that things in life never remain level, which can make things unpredictable, and for someone like me who doesn’t like surprises, it can be a little tough to maintain levels of non-drama.
– Finding moments of peace: One thing I know works well for me, and I feel like a broken record for continually staying it, but it’s the honest truth. I am actively seeking out moments which bring me joy and a sense of calm. I am lucky to live very close to water, which throughout my life I have always been drawn to. Whether it be to simply sit by the water and look out on it or to capture it in a photograph. Finding peace in remaining still, which interestingly is the very opposite of what my mind does. I am always thinking, my brain always churning and I suppose in some way, I cherish the moments or the things which have the opposite effect for me; it brings a balance.
ℙ𝕖𝕒𝕔𝕖𝕗𝕦𝕝 𝕞𝕚𝕟𝕕, 𝕘𝕣𝕒𝕥𝕖𝕗𝕦𝕝 𝕙𝕖𝕒𝕣𝕥
– Focusing on gratitude: Sometimes when life gets overwhelming, we focus on all of the things we do not have, all the things it’s costing us and all of the things we wished for had it been another way. I choose and and continue to choose leading with a grateful heart. I have done so much, I would like to do more, but my life is in no way the life I had fully imagined, but in the other way- it is so much more fulfilling. I look around and realize just how much I do have and even though I am often questioning myself when it comes to stress, finances and if I am doing a great job as a mother. I am still grateful. How can I not be? I have a solid support system, I love what I do, I get to be creative and at the end of the day- I am happy. It’s not to say that I don’t have things I would like to accomplish and goals I am ever pushing towards, but in the now- I have done well and for that, I am grateful.
– Loving fearlessly: I might have touched on this lightly in the past couple of week’s post, but I wanted to explore it a little bit further. I would like to fall in love and I would like to find my special person. I am open to it and I continue to open my heart up. But one thing I know for sure that I need to work on is to be vulnerable and to love without fear of the what if. Trusting someone is a risk, but living life is a risk. If I am looking for someone to love me for who I am, I also have to risk it by showing them who I am. I am a very empathetic person, and I have a lot of love, care, loyalty and companionship to give. I don’t want to be shamed for being so open and excited about meeting someone special, I don’t want to be pitied or made to look like I am merely desperate and giving my time to anyone who returns the favour. Yes, I may be enthusiastic, but I am also not stupid- I am an over thinker after all and maybe it might not look like it, I do not choose to give my time to just anyone.
– Being true to who I am: Relaying on the blurb just above, I am also fully aware that in order to love and live life fearlessly, I have to also stick to who I am and stand firm in my boundaries. Not changing who I am for someone else, or to make someone else feel comfortable. Keeping the focus on myself, while being open to another, but not bending over backwards in order to achieve it. I get the imagery of being light on my feet and that’s certainly something I want to go by. I know, that I have times when I feel bad for saying no or for standing firm against something I do not want to do, but the more I do this- the more honest I am being about myself, but I am also not showing the “projected’ part of myself, I am being my true self- and at the end of the day that’s all I can ask for and all I can expect of someone to love me for who I am.