Focusing on happiness, keeping your perspective and your vision clear. All of these sound well and good. This week on the blog, we’re sharing the steps we take in order to keep our happiness tap flowing. Have a read.
ℍ𝕒𝕡𝕡𝕚𝕟𝕖𝕤𝕤 𝕝𝕚𝕧𝕖𝕤 𝕚𝕟𝕤𝕚𝕕𝕖 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕤𝕞𝕒𝕝𝕝𝕖𝕤𝕥 𝕞𝕠𝕞𝕖𝕟𝕥𝕤.
Sometimes I feel myself getting overwhelmed, it becomes a strange dichotomy, because although I am aware my mind is spiralling, I am unable to ground and calm myself to shake it off. Some days I simply let myself cry it out, and other times, I try to rationalize with my mind. Despite knowing that this is usually hormone driven, this doesn’t seem to do anything to calm my nerves. So, my most recent tact when things tend to get overwhelming and I’m thinking about all of the places I would like to be or all of the ways I don’t think I am good enough, I’m trying to re-shift the way I think. I’ve blogged about this before, looking at the ways in which I am grateful, allows me to look through different lens. But this is honestly a DAILY practice, something which needs to constantly be done. Since, life has been a bit heavy and my mind full of cobwebs, I figured I would write about the steps I am taking to try to slow my mind. I’m sure none of these will be revolutionary ideas, I just wanted to find a way to reiterate it for myself and hopefully help someone.
Talk To That Someone
Being single and alone with your thoughts after 9pm can be daunting and sometimes it’s heavy. Allowing yourself too much of your time to sit and stir feelings can be too much and ultimately it doesn’t help because you fall into a loop. I have that friend, who is frank, blunt ( sometimes sharply so ), but honest is also your biggest support system. Even just to hear it from another perspective is beyond helpful. It allows you to get out of your own head and your own way and it also allows you to just share the load. Often times life can get heavy and your feelings are valid, but sometimes things are not as monumental as we think and there are always options. This is one of the reasons this blog was born, I needed an outlet as I was losing myself and I didn’t have the clarity of mind to see it. In many ways this blog allowed me to get back to myself, but it also started because I opened my mouth and talked about my feelings, now I type them, but the effects are the same. Whatever you do, whether it’s to a stranger or a loved one- TALK. There are always options.
𝔹𝕒𝕕 𝕧𝕚𝕓𝕖𝕤 𝕕𝕠𝕟’𝕥 𝕘𝕠 𝕨𝕚𝕥𝕙 𝕞𝕪 𝕠𝕦𝕥𝕗𝕚𝕥.
Reshifting my focus is a very hard one for me because I am not only a problem solver but also a chronic over thinker. These two combos make for an interesting mental dichotomy where I want to get past something I see as an issue. The only problem with that is, being happy isn’t a destination, there isn’t a “final point” and you’ve mastered it. Finding ways to be happy is like flexing a muscle, you need to keep it active and it is something you need to tap into on a daily basis. Some days that muscle will be needed and others, it’s a bit of a struggle, but what matters is that you constantly keep it going. Look at what you do have. No matter how you’re feeling, you are blessed. I look at the life I have built for myself and I know that no matter how I am feeling, I am beyond blessed. There is no way I can discount that, no matter how heavy life becomes. I know it might sound redundant as I’ve posted about it before, but I know I can get in my feelings. I can get ahead of myself on all of the ways in which I wish I was earning more or had more of this, but at the end of the day- I am doing a good job and I simply need to slow down and think about all of the ways in which I am blessed.
Be One With Nature
This should have probably been the 1st on the list, because it’s my main/first option. Go in nature. Yes, as cliche as it sounds and it is- this really works for me. Even if it’s just for 10 minutes and even if the effects don’t last for hours. This allows me to be still, to try to slow my mind down and I guess temporary distraction, that doesn’t cost anything, doesn’t hurt anyone and doesn’t require speaking to humans ( usually ). Something about sitting in the sun or listening to the water trickle and its repetitive motion- they are calming. It also allows you to realize just how small you really are in the grand scheme of things. As fragile as life can be at times, we are merely a spec, the feelings you are experiencing are temporary. The world is huge, it doesn’t discount your feelings, it’s more a way to reshift your gaze and to realize that the world will and does keep on spinning.
There will be so many ups and downs, so many unwanted surprises, but what we need to keep in mind is that the blip is temporary; uncomfortable but still temporary. There are many many things you can do, in order to reduce the pressure. Take it one step at a time, one day at a time and remember progress, no matter how small- it’s still progress. Keep going.